What I am interested in today is how we are set-up, for success, for failure, for a good time or not. On this occasion I’m not referring to how we are innately wired, but more how we ‘set ourselves’ up to perform.
What is your set-up? Are you even aware? Do outside forces affect your set-up, and if they do, is that all the time?
In my coaching I have noticed that a person’s set-up, very accurately and literally sets-up their experience and results everyday. If you tell yourself today is going to be frantic, stressful or a struggle, it probably will be.
Let’s take the frantic set-up. Your obedient servant brain responds to the set-up and can do ‘frantic’ brilliantly. It focuses your attention exclusively on the evidence of frantic. It holds your muscles and body shape in a permanently tensed fashion, ready to franticise.
In this state it becomes difficult to think your way out of frantic, to problem solve, to be serene and sometimes even to calm down at all. The probability is that even if the situations you find yourself in aren’t frantic, somehow you’ll make them so, or magnetically find something or someone to exercise your adrenaline charged frantic set-up.
This is the same for all your set-ups, of which you currently may not be aware, or consciously selecting. Whatever your set-up, you will attract situations, people and incidences that match your setting – what power you have!
I challenge you to notice and become aware of you set-ups. There are often times in the day when you shift a set-up, and therefore get to upgrade it, if you exercise your choice. The common set-up moments are first thing in a morning, break times, formal meetings, and work to home transition times.
Step into your set-up process and choose your own setting. Whilst external factors can affect your day, it is your ‘set-up’ that gives them the impact they need to, or don’t need to have.
I’ve been meaning to let you know that this posting (it came as an email to me) inspired me for a contract interview I had some weeks ago.
I was pretty nervous and had been in head to head combat with the confidence demons. I was trying to clear my fraught state of mind and be positive about the interview when I remembered your email – What is your set up?
Well I went to the interview in a positive state with the intent of having fun and as I left I thought I came across well, but sadly didn’t manage to answer all the questions and got the feeling I didn’t do too well.
You never can tell what others are looking for and hooray! I received a call the next day offering me the contract.
So thanks, your emails are working!